Guys, just get naked!

As 2012 comes to a close, I thought I would write one more post to end this year the right way...If this is your first time reading my blog, I generally write about some sort of sexually related topic, so enjoy!

Tonight's post was inspired by a photo I saw on tumblr. that was posted by a porn blog I follow:

Okay, well with past coital escapades with the three lucky gentlemen and then seeing this photo, I was kind of irked and just felt like writing about it...So can any guy please tell me why in the hell a woman has to get completely naked to have sex, while you can still keep your jeans on?!

I mean that is one of my pet peeves when it comes to having sex. If I have to be naked, you sure as hell better be naked...or I will try to take your damn clothes off for you if you are too timid. I mean give me a break! It does not take that long for you to get off that couch/chair, take your jeans and boxers, boxer-briefs, briefs, or underwear off and put a condom on.

It really is not that hard, yet I have slept with a guy who kept his shirt on for the majority of our sex and another guy who kept his boxers on the whole time and two of his dumbass drunk friends walked in on us to be funny and guess who got the most bare view out of that? Me, because, hmmmm, when I think of having sex the majority of the time I think of being naked...

I guess I get most ticked off about it because I am putting ALL of myself out there and the guy I am having sex with is keeping his shirt or boxers on?...Fuck that. I mean sex to me is a time when two naked bodies become one. I think if you keep some of your clothes on while we are having sex that you are holding back from me, it makes me wonder, why am I having sex with you or why did I have sex with you? 

I don't know...I like the naked human body and depriving me of seeing it when we are supposed to share a drunken or sober coital moment...or hours in a bed or in a car or in a pool or on a couch or on the floor really disappoints me and hurts my feelings. Seriously though, if the female is fully naked, guys ,take it from me, and just get naked!

We are just as insecure about our bodies as you are, so there is no need to hide, especially if we are at the point of vaginal or anal intercourse. Plus, for me at least, it makes sex more enjoyable when I have that total skin-to-skin contact. It's that total feeling of closure and feeling as one body in motion...I don't know if you get what I am trying to say, but having that full nudity in sex makes me feel like my partner and I are equals and we are one in that moment.

24 Sexual Questions About Me Answered

Okay, so in this post I am going to give all my readers a chance to see what only my tumblr. followers have seen this past month. On tumblr. you have the opportunity for people to ask you questions whether they reveal themselves or are anonymous. One night someone or some people just went crazy on my Ask box and as my avid readers know I do not hold anything back. So, below are 24 questions I was asked and 24 more ways to get to know me better, haha! Enjoy! ;)


**I mention grey face a few times. When someone is anonymous there is no profile picture, but a grey face in the place where a profile picture would be if the person were not anonymous.**


1. Anonymous: do you enjoy the taste of cum?
Me: Well, grey face, to be quite honest it is dependent on what my partner has consumed during the day because that will tweak the flavor a little bit. I do like the taste of it and it’s a nice little bit of protein, helps the skin keep a more youthful glow, and other benefits you can google. (I like to swallow, but only IF I KNOW THE PERSON IS CLEAN!)


2. Anonymous: What would you rather have done? Giving or receiving oral sex?
Me: I cannot give an answer to this question because unfortunately I have never received oral sex properly. There has only been one attempt in my sex life and I vocalized very clearly to the guy to stop because I felt nothing. I would love to receive oral sex, but I have yet to be with a guy who was willing to give me that sense of pleasure.

3. Anonymous: what if I was willing to give you oral properly?

Me: Well grey face, it would be nice to take me out on a date first and get to know me. I don’t just open my legs for anyone. It takes time and trust and if you won’t reveal yourself to me, what makes you think I’d reveal myself to you?

4. Anonymous: what do you have in mind for your ideal way of getting oral properly
Me: An orgasm.

5. Anonymous: would you rather have length or girth

Me: I would rather have an average penis, which is 5.1-5.9in roughly in length and 4.85in roughly in circumference because a vagina can really only handle the average male penis size. If the guy’s too big it wouldn’t be enjoyable because I would be crying in pain the whole time. If the guy’s too small, well, I wouldn’t be able to feel anything…

6. Anonymous: have you ever been creampied?

Me: HELL NO! That’s the easiest and dumbest way for a female to get pregnant, letting a guy release his load right into/on the female’s vagina as she orgasms…That’s just stupid.


7. Anonymous: Would you rather have rough crazy sex or passionate sex?
Me: Depends, because there is a time for both of these options. I think moreover I would prefer the passionate sex. 


8. Anonymous: Would you rather pool or shower?
Me: Pool.


9. Anonymous: why the pool
Me: I love water. I am not sure why, but I do. I guess because I grew up at the pool, was on the swim team all the way up to my senior year of high school, and I find water sexually intriguing.
The shower limits the amount of space you and your partner can have for possible positions and it can be cramped quarters in your standard shower. A standard in-ground pool is a lot more roomy than the shower.


10. Anonymous: have you ever let a guy jizz on your face?
Me: No, and I don’t find that sexy or a turn-on at all.


11. Anonymous: What is your craziest fantasy?
Me: Welp, I’m making this one up off the top of my head:
My partner and I spend an entire day hiking up a mountain. Sleep next to a river (which is what your supposed to do when you go hiking in the mountains). At sunrise my partner and I will have dirty mountain sex, where all of nature can hear our every moan and groan before breakfast. The End.

12. Anonymous: Have you ever though about giving a guy anal instead of receiving it?
Me: thought*
Nope.

13. Anonymous: if you were to have threesome with two guys, what would you have them do to you?
Me: I would have one guy giving me anal sex, while the other guys gives me vaginal sex. Both of them embracing me and kissing me up and down. A visual reference of this is in the movie Threesome from 1994. 


14. Anonymous: Do you take control of guys when it comes to sex? and how so?
Me: No, because I think there should be an equal sort of balance of control in the boudoir. I will say that when I do have sex I do not hold back if something does not feel right or needs to change. An example is vocalizing to my sexual partner that their penis is or is not in my vagina.


15 Anonymous: Do you wish you had someone to relive your stress from the end of the semester?
Me: relieve*
I sometimes do wish I had someone to relieve my stress from this hell of a semester I have had, yes, but I do not want to rush into anything. I honestly, at this point in time, don’t even know if I want anything.

16. Anonymous: In the future would you consider living the swinger lifestyle with your partner?
Me: No, I have already established to myself that when I actually do have sex with a guy it is because I truly like him. I always have feelings attached when I have sex, whether the guy knows it or not and I can’t fathom having my heart broken a million times over because I am sleeping with casual couples. That’s just not for me.


17. Anonymous: Do you think you are skilled in giving oral sex
Me: I wouldn’t say I am “skilled” when it comes to giving oral sex, because I have only given head to three guys in my life, but the guys I have given head to have complimented me on my oral. 


18. Anonymous: What is better? Drunk sex? High sex? or Sober Sex?
Me: Sober sex, always.


19. Anonymous: Something about you draws me to you so bad, I want to get to know you so I hope you let me
Me: It seems like what draws me to you so badly is sexual attraction…but since I don’t know who you are grey face I can’t say I feel the same. It also seems like you only want to “get to know me” sexually, just by your questions.


20. Anonymous: Dont get me wrong I am definitely attracted to you sexually but I see pass that with you, your smile, your amazing taste in music and how much you care about music =)
Me: Right…well if I could see past these sexually perverted questions you’ve asked me, all I see is this anon grey face.


21. Anonymous: Do you know if you are a squirter?
Me: I am not a squirter.


22. Anonymous: What are you looking for right now and what do you look for in a guy
Me: Right now I am looking for a serious relationship. I have tried to make myself believe that a casual relationship was okay, but I still ended up having feelings for the guy and I just hate hurting myself like that.
Things I look for in a guy:

• Appearances-wise - I am always attracted immediately to a guy’s eyes. I have no particular preference of color, except that I like natural eye colors, fuck color contacts. I am highly attracted to a beautiful smile with pearly white and straight teeth. I find it sexy when a guy takes care of his mouth. I love a nice ass I can grab! I am definitely a fan of the ass. I like guys that are taller than me, I am 5’7 3/4, so I prefer a guy who is at least 5’9 in height or taller. I prefer a guy who doesn’t look like I would destroy him/eat him alive. I prefer a guy who looks like he would be able to pick me up and has a little meat on his bones.
• Other-wise - A guy who respects himself and me, has a nice personality, has a sense of humor, I am really sarcastic at times so I need a guy who can keep up with me and take a joke. I want a faithful guy because I have been fucked over already in my life and that damaged me and I don’t want to feel that way again. I want a loyal guy as well because nothing sucks worse than a guy who won’t stand up for his girl through everything. I want a trustworthy guy because, stemming off of the faithfulness, nothing sucks more than being with a guy who’s lying to you to your face. I prefer a guy who likes the same music as me, because music is like my second home and if he doesn’t like the music I listen to and won’t go to shows with me, we won’t work out.

23. Anonymous: You didn't scare him away. I understand where you are coming from. People want different things at different times in their life. I am looking for serious things but i didn't match what you want. So I can't change who i am. Would you ever go to a nudest resort with a guy or someone special?
Me: I’m curious as to what part you didn’t match…but I do not think I would go to a nudest resort. A nude beach, yes, but a nudest resort means having to spend more than a few hours with a bunch of naked people around, haha. I like being naked, but that’s in the comfort of my own apartment.


24. Anonymous: Would you want someone to hangout in the nude with you or do you just like being nude alone?
Me: If I am going to be nude with someone else, just us two, we better be having sex. I am not comfortable with being naked with just anyone, haha. If I am naked with someone else I sure as hell better be in love with him because I do not show my entire body to just anyone. This would be someone special.
I enjoy being nude alone because I feel free, laissez-faire don’t care! 

HPV

How to start this post...I decided to write this because as much as I love my mom sometimes she can say some of the most hurtful things, probably not realizing how bad they actually hurt. I did not feel like telling her how much it hurt me because it has always been a touchy subject and I really did not want to overreact. So I kept my mouth shut and now I am writing it all down.


Today as my mom was driving us home from my sister's baby shower I was telling her how I love my best friends and how I feel like I can tell them anything. For example, one of my guy friends wants to be a nurse, so I told him about my colposcopy (a procedure in which the doctor biospies uterine cells to, in my case, make sure my cells are not cancerous) I had yesterday. Well while I was explaining to my mom what exactly it is that they do during the procedure she said, "Emily you really need to make better choices when it comes to your sexual partners because this is the second one that has made you have to have a colposcopy." My first response was, "but mom I have only slept with three men." To which she responded, "Well two out of three have been not your best choices." After she said that I wanted to open the fucking car door and just jump out of the car. 
Why would you say such a thing?! Especially to your daughter. I just could not believe it.


Here is where I will start to explain why I felt like jumping out of the car, I guess...
So as my avid readers know from a previous post entitled: The Three Lucky Gentlemen 
I have only slept with three men in my entire sex life. My second sexual partner, who I named Gaston in my previous post, was really the only sexual partner I had for a substantial amount of time. Well, I thought he was clean because he was a marine and I am pretty sure they do health screenings regularly in the Marines to make sure that their soldiers are healthy. We only had protected sex the first two times out of eleven times we did have sex. After I severed all communication ties with Gaston in November of 2008 I had my annual physical at the doctor in May. This was the first time ever that I had abnormal pap smear results. They made me schedule an appointment to come in for a follow-up appointment where they would do a colposcopy procedure to look further in-depth at my uterine cells. Well, the results came back and my cells were determined to be pre-cancerous. My doctor said this can only mean that I got HPV (human papillomavirus) from my sexual partner. 
The biggest life changing news for me. I went home and cried. Well, because this happened I had to go back to the doctor every four months to have a pap smear to make sure nothing turned out to be cancerous and after a year of that everything went back to normal. I went back to the once a year pap smear...until this year. 
**Before I get into that I just want to point out that after Gaston and I severed ties I did not have sex with anyone until November 23, 2011. I was celibate for three years and three months before I had sex again.**
So, I went for my annual physical this past March and low and behold I had another abnormal pap smear. Once again I had to go to the doctor for a follow-up colposcopy appointment, which I had yesterday. My mom thinks it was because of Josh, my third sexual partner, and I was actually offended when she hinted at that because once you have HPV, you have it. She cannot just blame the next guy I sleep with for an abnormal pap smear.
I wanted to literally just jump out of the car. Not only did I feel like she was disrespecting me to my face, she was disrespecting my sexual partner and friend that she does not even know.


Anyways...so I have HPV. If you don't know a lot about HPV, I suggest you do some light reading on it! Yes, I got all the Gardasil shots when I was in high school, but guess what? They only protect against, I believe, six out of the 40+ strains there are of HPV. I just so happened to I guess get one of the strains it does not protect against. 
**For more facts on HPV you can go here: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and here: HPV.com Get The Facts **
HPV.com gives very insightful information about HPV and really helped me understand that I sure as hell am not alone and even if I had taken every precautionay measure while having sex, all HPV needs to spread from one person to another is genital contact. You do not even have to have sex to get it! HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection. I feel sort of gross and ashamed knowing that I have it, but my symptoms are the cervical cancer possibilities. Cool! I could possibly die from cancer that is caused by an STI. *sarcasm*


Right well, getting back to what my mom said earlier today, it really hurt my feelings that my mom thinks that my sexual partners caused me to have another abnormal pap smear...Guys can't be screened for HPV, but I am about 99.9% sure it was Gaston who was the carrier, mainly because he cheated on me and was sleeping with other females who were not the safest nor cleanest people I knew. It hurt my feelings because it only takes one sexual partner to get an STI like HPV and my mom was pretty much telling me that my third sexual partner gave me HPV again...I was also hurt that she would call me out like that and hit me with such a low blow.


I don't know...I guess I wrote this because I thought I could make myself feel better writing this down and I guess also let other ladies out there that have HPV know that they are not alone, yep. Also, I am here if anyone ever wants to talk about it.

The Sex List

For those of you who have read my blog before, you already know I have had sex and some of the things I have done sexually, but there are several things I have not done yet that I want to try out...This post will list some of the things I have yet to do sexually:
Also, I would like to try all of these things at least once, but they are in no particular order. :)

1. Sex in the shower.
2. Morning sex.
3. Library sex.
4. Strip tease for my sexual partner before foreplay and sex.
5. Live out a tangible sexual fantasy.
6. Boob sex (as funny as that sounds, it is something I have never done, but I am alright with trying it out).
7. A threesome...preferably two males, because females breed drama. Although, I am not totally against trying a female and male threesome.
8. Pool sex.
9. Stache ride (for those who do not know what I mean = sit on a male's face).
10. Receive oral sex...you heard me right I have never been eaten out properly.
11. A rim job.
12. Sex swing...as much as I like to swing, I want to try it out sexually.
13. Rain sex...when it's nice and warm outside, like spring showers or summer rains when it is definitely warm enough to forgot about the clothes you're wearing and just do it outside and get wet in both senses.
14. Car sex.
15. In general, try more sex positions. More than missionary, doggy-style, and reverse cowgirl.
16. Birthday sex.
17. 69.
18. Full body massage, giving and receiving...a form of foreplay.
19. Sex on the beach...on the condition that it is in a tent with the least amount of sand as possible, haha. I just love the atmosphere and the sounds of water. 
20. Sex in a park...a national park or a city park, not a dog park though, haha.

I'll just stick to 20 for now...I am sure there are plenty more I cannot think of at the moment but this is just a list of the things I have yet to do sexually, but am down to try. I know the majority of them are cliche, but I have yet to experience some of the most basic sexual pleasures that lots of people have...probably because I have only had sex 13 times...I will be looking forward to the day I can knock some of these things above off of my list...Unless I am playing Never Have I Ever, haha.

Being Naked

Being naked...I love it. I love the sense of freedom and sort of carelessness about it. 
Well, in this post I plan on delving into the naked human bodies (male and female) and human feelings towards being naked.


Alright everyone should know what a naked body looks like, most certainly their own sex, because they see themselves naked everyday in the shower, getting dressed, etc. If you do not know what a naked body looks like, take a moment and go to google and type it in...I'm sure under images you would be able to find tons of examples.


I will start with the female because, obviously, I know that very well.
I am just speaking very generally about this. I will not go into any anatomical crazy sorts of names and stuff so that you have to google it to find out what the hell I am talking about. Plain and simple...The naked female body parts (starting from the top->down) consists of breasts, a vagina (including the clitoris and labias), and anus. If you're thinking sexually, you would include the mouth in this group...
The naked male body parts (starting from the top->down) consists of pecs, a penis, testicles, and anus. Once again, if you're thinking sexually, you would include the mouth (especially the tongue) in this group...


Every one has different body types and different sizes of each of these things listed above and those parts of our body (except for male pecs) in the US are most often hidden and known as "private parts." I think because of what the US and society have tried to make us believe the perfect body looks like, people are constantly comparing themselves to that. People often find themselves not feeling up to the "sexy" standard. It is really disheartening.

Being naked is a sign of vulnerability, but with self confidence anyone can rock the birthday suit! As I stated at the beginning of this post, I love being naked! I don't really like clothes that much because, in all seriousness, there is no one-size fits all and looks good on all types of people clothing. It is so much easier to just walk around my apartment, go swimming, or sleep in just my skin and flesh. I sleep naked. It is comfortable, extremely comfortable, when I sleep and just feel the sheets on my skin. I am so accustomed to it, that when I spend the night at a friend's place, I find it weird to sleep in pajamas. Being naked is just natural. We came out of the womb naked. I am sure everyone as a child or at some point in their life, ran around their house butt-naked. I know I did, more than my fair share of times as a kid, haha. I think the times I find myself extremely vulnerable are when I share my naked body with a sexual partner because not only can they see all of me, I allow them to use all of their senses and touch me, taste me, smell me, and hear the sounds I make when I allow them to do all of those things. It is one of the times I feel like my body is not up to par or is not the best naked body he has ever seen...but then I think again and tell myself I am beautiful. I have nice curves. I have a nice ass. I have nice breasts that I can play with at any time I damn well please. I, of course, have a very well-kept vagina that gets its deserved attention. I just have to remind myself, with confidence, that my body may not be perfect, but damn I look hot without any clothes on! ;)


It is interesting that something so simple as being naked becomes warped when you put it within the context of adult life. The perfect naked body does not exist! Plastic surgeons will continue to make money off of the people that believe that statement is false though. Those people believe they can achieve the perfect body through the loss of so many thousands of dollars, surgeries, pain, recovery, etc. Porn is another example of what people think the naked human body should look like...it's all wrong. Pornography type casts just like any other Disney movie does and not everyone looks like that. Not everyone has DD breasts or a 10 inch penis, just sayin'. Everyone is different! If people would stop taking their cues from society on what type of naked they consider "hot" and tried to find the "hotness" by looking in the mirror, their confidence in being naked would rise. I believe it. 


If there was one thing I would suggest to help boost that confidence, find something you like to do and do it naked.
***PLEASE make sure it's legal, good lord, do not be stupid about it! Don't do something like go to Backdoor Skatepark and try to skateboard completely naked. A good example is to get ready for your day completely naked in your bathroom, bedroom, etc. up until the point where you obviously have to get dressed and leave for school, work, etc. 
I like to get ready naked and one thing I find really fun to do is jam out to music around my apartment, do a little dance, sing a few verses and refrains, and just enjoy the freedom I have in my own. :) 

Valentine's Day Is Coming Up

Last year I wrote a blog about my Valentine's Day and I guess for some reason I feel the need to write another because I did not cover the thoughts I have right now in my last one.


My opinion about Valentine's Day is very harsh, but I feel like it is valid.
Valentine's Day, in my opinion, is a fucking capitalist holiday where money is flushed down the shitter all for the sake of "love."


Does that sound a little bitter? Maybe...
Well, I say it so harshly because I have always been single on Valentine's Day and singledom on Valentine's Day is almost sickening and sucks...Every couple seems to be drooling over themselves. Making reservations and paying ridiculous amounts of money to eat at restaurants that have Valentine's Day Sweetheart Specials. They are almost always stressed out about their plans, especially when they go wrong. It's the one day every couple has an excuse to really show that they love their significant other...


I'm sorry, don't you do that on a daily basis? Why would you go out, spend a ridiculous amount of money to show the person, who already knows, that you love them? The answer only a Comm Major like myself could give is because this holiday makes it a sort of norm and most people feel like they are doing something wrong if they don't celebrate. 


The funniest part is that this holiday was named after two Christians named Valentine (of Rome and of Terni) who were martyred back in the second and third centuries. A martyr has nothing to do with love, candies, greeting cards, and all this hoopla society now has us thrusting upon couples in love. Two men agreeing to death rather than give up their religious beliefs is what this holiday was originally about. Now we buy candy, flowers, Valentine cards, and get our knickers in a twist if one little thing goes wrong on our date.


I say forget about all that shit. Valentine's Day has turned into such a capitalist holiday, meaning too much money is spent on materialistic ideals of "love." If I did have a Valentine, and we are celebrating the way society expects us to, all I would want from him is a good fuck and we can call it a day...We end the session in the sheets saying Happy Valentine's Day and cuddle off to sleep. BOOM! I don't need the candy, the flowers, or the dinner at the restaurant (which will probably be busy as hell), just gimme yourself and I will be completely happy with that Valentine.
Show me you love me rather than trying to buy my affection...It's more sensible and not to mention it's free.


If I don't have a Valentine again this year, like last year, welp there's always masturbation...haha.

Friends With Benefits?

So, I have been thinking tonight...which usually leads to me writing a blog. 
My question is:
Is there really a politically correct way to say you're just fucking someone?...


I live vicariously through Samantha Jones from Sex and the City as most of my friends already know, but I just cannot seem to be able to have a conversation with everyone telling them out loud and openly that I am fucking someone. I mean I do this with my very close friends (usually one-on-one), but other than those few and obviously my blog readers, who secretly read it but won't tell me they did, I am unsure on how to tell other people when the conversation of sex life and relationships arise.


I was seeing a counselor and obviously they ask you about every facet of your life including school, work, extracurriculars, relationship, family, etc. Well, she asked me how my relationship with this guy I was dating was going and I was taken aback and I even laughed a little bit. I think seeing past the generational differences between us, I was unsure on how to just tell her in a politically correct way that we were just having sex. I kept telling her we were "talking." I feel that way around my parents as well and really any of my family members. It is an awkward conversation and a situation that may make me seem like a slut, but in reality I am just having sex with the same person without being committed to them. I delved into this casual relationship hoping that they knew I was not sleeping with anyone else, so I in return was hoping they weren't either. That's probably my only disclaimer to this kind of "no strings attached" mentality. 
Also, if for some reason, either partner in a casual relationship finds someone they would like to pursue, then they should let their partner know. I think it's safe to say that the whole casually sleeping together business should end, out of respect, obviously. 
**On a side note: Emotions are involved in everything we do, despite what some people might say, and it can be very disheartening to be in a casual relationship with someone you trust enough to sleep with and them not be able to tell you they want to stop. That is how friendships end, sadly. It should never have to be that way. So always remember: Communication is key!


Moving on...I hate that term, "talking." I use that term because I think it's politically correct to say, instead of, "oh we're just fucking." In reality, I think people see "talking" in a specific way. I feel like if you tell someone you are "talking" to someone then you are in that in between dating and in a relationship stage. 


I also think "friends with benefits (fwb)" is such a cop out term. I don't really know anyone who actually uses that term when they are talking about sleeping with someone on a regular basis, but aren't dating them. Fuck buddies is also another term that makes me think in and of itself, is that politically correct?


I guess that leads me to the question: 
Is fucking someone on a regular basis without being in a relationship with them considered politically correct?...
-Doubtful, but in today's society it seems to be a trend. People are purely just trying to meet their physical needs with someone who is agreeing to do the same without having to deal with jealousy issues or other types of baggage some relationships tend to bring into people's lives. 


Other ways of saying "Oh we're just fucking" that might not necessarily be politically correct but have been said are:
-We know each other biblically. <-Oh the irony!
-We're heathens together.
-We're just living in sin.
-Casual relationship. <-That might be the closest thing to politically correct.
-Booty call.
-Friends by day, sex partners by night. <-haha!
And there are more, I am sure, but those were just a few I asked around for or have heard from people in the past.


Anyways, I wrote this post because I really don't know how to talk to someone without making myself sound like a slut, when I talk about having sex with the same person without dating them. In today's society, I feel like this is still frowned upon in the public eye, but looking beyond that, especially in my generation, it is a commonality. Hell, check out the movies No Strings Attached  and Friends With Benefits! These are just two movies that go to show you it is out there whether people want to see/know it or not.

Anal Sex

Okay, so as the title states this post will be all about Anal Sex. Everything I am going to talk about is from my experience, my opinion on it, Dos and Don'ts from what I've experienced and really just a sort of PSA that it doesn't have to hurt. In fact, in my experience it hurt soooooo good. ;) Some of this content is quite raw, so if you can't handle me talking about an asshole then you should probably stop reading here.

Well okay so Anal Sex, there's this big ugly fat stigma placed on it that it's "Gay Sex." Most guys who are straight would rather not tell their other friends, especially guy friends, that they fucked their girlfriend in the ass because of the gay connotation that always seems to be put on it. 
I'm here to tell you, that it's just sex. Straight people have it, gay people have it, bisexuals have it, etc...it is just another hole a penis/sex toys can go into and induce pleasure for sexual partners. Plain and simple.

Alright now that that statement has been made, I really enjoy anal sex. I was unsure how I would feel about it when I was talking to my sexual partner, but if you just push those thoughts to the back of your mind and realize this is just another moment you can receive pleasure out of, why wouldn't you?!
Well before I had anal sex for the first time I had looked up things online about how to make it hurt less because we all know and have heard the horror stories from attempts at anal sex. What I found online was slightly helpful and interesting. I mean let's be honest, if you look something up online at least try to have it be a somewhat credible source, otherwise take any advice that is posted online with a grain of salt...like this post, haha. (In the end the choice is yours and no one should make you have anal sex, period.)

Anyways, online there were suggestions: 
1. Make sure you have taken a poop at least two hours prior to sexual engagement, to ensure no nasty mishaps (ew!),
2. Try taking a warm and relaxing bath to calm any tension,
3. Try to have your partner during foreplay massage your anus and loosen any possible tension to lessen the initial pain,
4. Make sure to use water-based lubrication,
and 5. Always promote safer sex by wearing a condom.

Okay well since I stated what I read up on before actually having it, I will tell you my personal account of anal sex. 
Well my sexual partner and I were having vaginal intercourse and during a breather I was asked if I had ever thought about trying anal sex. Well I giggled and said to be honest that I had looked it up online. I looked up how to prepare for it and sort of what to expect from it. I said I had already taken my big dump of the day. (Nice pillow talk right? Haha.) So I was prepared for it, if we pursued anal sex that night. I am someone who really does not think twice about something, so I said let's do it. 
Well he was wearing a condom and I positioned him into the right hole and he entered me from behind. We were in the doggy-style position and towards the end of the bed. Well as soon as he entered this jut of pain went surging through my body and we both knew he was in...he thrusted a few more times and my hands fell to the floor, half of my body still on the bed. I was in so much pain I kept telling him to stop and that I needed to get back on the bed. So he stopped, pulled out and I crawled my way back up onto the bed and laid there in the fetal position with shallow breathing. I told him something along the lines of, "Ow. That. Fucking. Hurt. Oh my god." While I laid there catching my breath and feeling less pain, he asked if we could try again with lube. I wanted to smack myself, duh! So I said okay and he lubed up my hole and he reentered and this time it was 100 times less painful. 
*sidenote-you know that feeling you get when you're getting a tattoo? That it hurts so good feeling? That's what this felt like.*
So we were in doggy-style and he pulled out and told me to turn over. Okay, so I did and he entered me in the missionary position and proceeded to ram the fuck out of me. Let me just say it hurt so good that I came before he was finished.
**It took me more or less three days for my asshole to get back to a normal feeling. Your ass is guaranteed to hurt after anal sex. Common sense.

Anyways, now that you have this mental image of me having anal sex, haha, I want to tell you why it hurt initially and some Dos and Don'ts when you are having anal sex.
Dos:
-Wear a condom - provides a barrier, most are lubricated, it's just safer.
-Lubricate!!! - seriously that was probably our initial biggest mistake only relying on the condom's lubrication, it hurt because there was too much friction and not enough glide. Lube it up and you will be golden.
-COMMUNICATE - if it doesn't feel good tell him!, if he is about to enter your vagina instead of your anus tell him and help him position it in the right place, LADIES: nothing could be worse than his penis going straight from your anus to your vagina because you didn't tell him or help him out. 
-Wash up after it is all over. Seriously though, why wouldn't you?
-Change condoms before switching back to vaginal intercourse, Ladies, I know you don't want the poop bugs/bacteria up in your vagina, especially since they can cause the UTIs (Urinary Tract Infection), Yeast Infections, and other gross bacterial infections. 

Don'ts:
-Don't Bareback, unless you fully understand what you are getting yourself into.
-Don't do it without lubrication...with anal sex lubrication will be your best friend, after his penis.
-Don't let him switch from your anus to your vagina without changing condoms/cleaning up. If you do allow him to do this ladies-get ready for a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection), Yeast Infection, and/or anything bacterial related to creep up on your vagina.
-Don't go blindly into this. Try to look things up prior, to lessen the amount of discomfort you will experience.
-Don't do it if you don't want to, the choice is yours!

**There will be initial pain, that's just a plain fact. I mean you are thrusting something that is bigger than what the hole is used to on a daily basis. Common sense. So just keep that in mind.

In the end, as I have stated multiple times, the choice to have anal sex is up to you and your sexual partner. I think that anal sex is an acquired taste, but I really enjoy it. When I say that anal sex is an acquired taste, I mean a lot of people have had horrific experiences with it and don't want to try it again, ever, because that's how they think it will always be, painful. I feel like most of those horror stories stem from the fact that the sexual partners did not have access to lubrication and/or really think in depth about what they were about to do. I think for anything you plan on doing sexually you should at least know some facts about it before just diving in. I really feel like more people would enjoy anal sex if they could get over that initial pain stage and fully succumb to the pleasure that you can receive out of it, with lots of lube.